I just committed the worst sin a mother can commit: I looked my five-year-old in the eye and promised him a lie he’ll remember forever.
My name is Sarah, I’m 34, and right now I’m squeezed into my son Leo’s race car bed. He’s asleep, one hand gripping my t-shirt like a lifeline. I’m staring at the glow-in-the-dark stars on his ceiling, trying not to breathe too loud, doing the only thing I have left: The Math.
The Doctors: 12 to 18 months. Maybe 24 if the new clinical trial works. Leo: Middle school graduation is in 7 years. The math is cruel. It’s not an opinion; it’s a sentence. I won’t be there.
Leo shifts in his sleep. He smells like grape juice and dryer sheets—the smell of a fresh, new life. Me? I smell like the cancer center. Even after two showers, I smell like rubbing alcohol and fear. Chemo changes your chemistry; it seeps out of your pores. I’m terrified he smells it. I don’t want to be a sad memory. I want to be the smell of Sunday morning pancakes.
This afternoon, while we were building a Lego tower, he asked, “Momma, will you dance with me at my wedding?”
The room spun. I felt the acid rise in my throat. But I smiled. I put a red brick on top of a blue one and said, “Baby, I’ll be the best dancer there. I’ll wear my sparkliest dress.”
I lied. I won’t be at his wedding. I won’t be there when he gets his driver’s license. I won’t be there when a girl breaks his heart for the first time and he needs me to tell him the world isn’t ending.
That will be Mike’s job. My husband, Mike. The man who still shrinks wool sweaters in the dryer. The man who panics when Leo gets a scraped knee. I need to leave him an instruction manual. Note 1: When Leo goes quiet, don’t force him to talk. Just make him a grilled cheese and sit with him. Note 2: He hates thunder. Tell him it’s just the angels bowling.
I slide out of bed. My joints pop like I’m 90, not 30. In the hallway mirror, I catch a glimpse of the stranger staring back. No hair. Just a soft beanie. Leo calls me his “Super Mom.” He thinks it’s cool. I laugh with him, but at night, when the beanie comes off, I see the truth. I see the sickness eating time, second by second.
I crawl into bed next to Mike. He’s facing the wall, but I know he’s awake. I can feel the tension in his back. He’s doing the math too. He’s looking at the stack of medical bills on the nightstand and the calendar, watching our days drop like dead leaves.
I wrap an arm around him. He turns and squeezes me so hard it hurts, like he’s trying to physically anchor me to this earth. We don’t speak. We ran out of “Stay positive” and “You got this” months ago. Now, there is just the silence of the inevitable.
I rest my head on his chest and think about the iPhone videos hidden in my cloud storage. I record them when the house is empty. “Happy 18th Birthday, Leo.” “Happy College Graduation, Leo.” “Hi sweetie, it’s Mom. So, you’re going to be a Dad…”
I feel ridiculous talking to a grown man I will never meet. Will I just be a digital ghost? A pixelated face on a screen? Will a video be enough to replace a mother’s warm hug when the world gets cold? No. It won’t be enough. But it’s all I have.
Tears sting my eyes, but I swallow them. I can’t waste the energy. Tomorrow is Saturday. I promised Leo we’d go to the park. I need the strength to push him on the swings.
I need to push him higher and higher, towards the clouds. Because that is my job now: To give him such a strong push that he can fly through this life, even when I’m no longer there to watch him land.
My name is Sarah, and I am a mother dying in a hurry, trying to pack a lifetime of love into a few months, praying it’s enough to keep my boys warm for all the winters to come.
PART 2 — The Swing Set Promise (Continuation)
Saturday morning arrives like a dare.
The sun comes through the blinds in thin, bright strips, and for a few seconds—just a few—I can pretend I’m a normal mom on a normal weekend, about to complain about laundry and cartoons and sticky floors.
Then my body reminds me.
It’s not pain exactly. It’s a heaviness. Like my bones are filled with wet sand. Like someone poured gravity into my veins overnight.
I sit up anyway.
Because I promised Leo the park.
Because in our house, promises are sacred—right up until the moment they aren’t.
I shuffle into the bathroom and stare at myself under the harsh light. The mirror doesn’t flatter. It never has. But now it feels almost cruel, like it’s showing me a before-and-after photo that I never consented to.
No hair. Just my soft beanie pulled low like a secret.
Skin the color of paper.
Eyes that look too big because the rest of me is shrinking.
I brush my teeth slowly, careful not to gag. Chemo has turned my mouth into a battlefield. Everything tastes like metal and regret.
Behind me, the door creaks and Mike appears, rubbing his face.
He doesn’t say good morning. He doesn’t say anything. He just leans against the doorframe and watches me like I’m a candle he’s afraid to breathe near.
“You okay?” he finally asks, like the question itself might break me.
“I’m okay,” I say, because I’m a mother and that’s what we do.
We turn the word okay into a shield and hope it holds.
I rinse, spit, wipe my mouth. My hands shake. Mike notices. Of course he does.
He takes a step toward me, then stops, like he’s afraid the act of helping will make it real.
I want to tell him, It’s real whether you help or not.
But I don’t.
Because today is park day.
Today is swings.
Today is me pushing my son so high he thinks the sky is within reach.
In the kitchen, Leo is already awake, already vibrating with joy. He’s in mismatched socks and dinosaur pajamas, hair sticking up in every direction, cheeks still puffy with sleep.
He’s holding his shoes like trophies.
“Momma! Park! Park right now!” he says, like the park might disappear if we waste even one minute.
Mike manages a smile. I manage one too. It feels like stretching a bruise.
“Let me eat first, speed racer,” I tell Leo, and he giggles because he loves when I call him that.
Mike flips pancakes because that’s what I wanted him to be—the smell of Sunday morning, even when I’m not there.
The batter splatters. He burns the first one. Leo doesn’t care. Leo never cares about imperfect pancakes.
He cares that we’re together.
He cares that I’m here.
And that’s what makes my chest ache the most.
Because I know what he doesn’t.
Because I carry a countdown clock under my ribs, ticking every time he laughs.
While Leo eats, I pack a little bag the way I always do: water bottle, wipes, a tiny first-aid kit, snacks, sunscreen.
It hits me, suddenly, how ridiculous it is.
I’m packing sunscreen for a future I won’t be in.
But then I remember: the future isn’t just mine. It’s his. And even if I’m not there to see it, I can still try to protect his skin from burning.
That’s what love does.
It worries in advance.
When we step outside, the air is cold and bright. Winter has been stubborn this year, clinging to the mornings like it refuses to let go.
Leo reaches for my hand immediately.
His hand is small and warm and trusting.
I squeeze it too hard.
In the car, he chatters nonstop, narrating every single thing he sees like he’s hosting his own nature documentary.
“Look! Dog! Big dog! That dog has a jacket!”
“Mm-hmm,” I say, and Mike laughs quietly because he loves this about Leo—the way his mind is always running, always noticing.
I watch them in the rearview mirror.
My boys.
My whole world.
Mike glances at me for half a second too long.
He’s doing that thing again—checking if I’m still here.
As if I might evaporate at a red light.
At the park, the parking lot is already full. There are minivans and strollers and parents in puffy jackets holding coffee cups. Little kids in bright hats run in every direction like spilled Skittles.
The smell of damp woodchips hits me, mixed with cold air and old leaves and the distant scent of someone grilling on a tiny portable thing at the picnic tables.
Normal.
It’s so painfully normal.
Leo bolts toward the playground like he’s been shot out of a cannon, but he stops halfway, turns, and runs back.
He throws his arms around my waist and squeezes.
“Thank you, Momma,” he says into my jacket.
Five-year-olds don’t usually say thank you like that.
Not unless they sense something.
Not unless the world feels a little shakier than it should.
My throat tightens.
“You’re welcome, baby,” I whisper, kissing the top of his head. “Go play.”
He runs.
I watch him climb the steps, hands gripping the cold metal rails, legs pumping like he’s scaling a mountain.
Mike stands beside me, hands in his pockets, shoulders tense.
We look like any other couple at the park.
If you didn’t know.
If you couldn’t see the invisible catastrophe hanging over us like a storm cloud no one else can feel.
Leo runs to the swings and points at the one with the bucket seat.
“Momma! Push me! High! High like a rocket!”
I swallow, summon strength I don’t have, and walk over.
The swing chains rattle. The seat is cold. Leo plops in and sticks his arms out like airplane wings.
“Ready?” I ask.
“Ready!”
I stand behind him, hands on his back, and push.
The first push is gentle. The second a little stronger. The third stronger still.
Leo squeals with delight, legs kicking, laughter exploding out of him like fireworks.
“Again! Higher!”
I push again, and again, and again.
My arms burn. My lungs tighten. My heart pounds too fast.
But Leo is flying.
For a few seconds, he’s weightless.
And I think, irrationally, stupidly: If I push hard enough, maybe I can push him past this.
Past grief.
Past missing me.
Past the moment he realizes promises aren’t always kept.
“Momma!” he yells on the upswing, voice bright with something that sounds like pure life. “When I’m big, I’m gonna get you a house with a pool!”
I laugh, but it cracks around the edges.
“A pool, huh?”
“And a dog,” he adds. “And you can have your hair long like Rapunzel again.”
There it is.
A casual little stab.
A child’s innocent cruelty.
I blink hard.
Mike clears his throat behind me, like he’s swallowing his own pain.
Leo swings back toward me, still smiling.
“And then,” he says, like he’s telling me the most obvious thing in the world, “you’ll be there forever.”
Forever.
The word hangs between us like a balloon held by a trembling string.
My hands grip the swing chain.
I could lie again.
I could smile and say, Yes, baby. Forever.
I could make that promise the way I made the wedding promise.
But something in me—something exhausted and honest—rebels.
I don’t want to be the mother who turns love into a series of beautiful lies.
I also don’t want to be the mother who crushes her child with the truth.
So I do what I’ve been doing for months.
I thread the needle with shaking hands.
“I’m here right now,” I say softly, pushing him again. “And right now is huge.”
Leo doesn’t seem satisfied.
He swings back. His face becomes suddenly serious, like he’s trying to solve a puzzle.
“Are you… are you gonna go away again?” he asks.
My breath catches.
Because last time I “went away,” it was just the hospital. Just a week. Just a minor complication. But to Leo, it felt like exile.
Mike steps closer, like he wants to intervene, like he wants to catch me if I fall.
I crouch slightly so Leo can see my face when he swings forward.
“I’m not going away today,” I say. “Today is park day. Today is swings. Today is pancakes.”
Leo studies me.
Five-year-olds aren’t supposed to have that look.
That searching look.
Like they’re scanning your face for cracks.
Finally, he nods.
“Okay,” he says, and the swing keeps moving.
But the question stays lodged in my chest.
I keep pushing until my arms shake so badly I have to stop.
Leo jumps out of the swing and runs to the slide, already onto the next joy.
I sit on a bench, breathing hard, trying not to look like I’m about to collapse.
Mike sits beside me, and for a minute we just watch Leo.
A father and a mother at a park.
A family.
A snapshot.
Mike’s voice is quiet when he speaks.
“You didn’t lie,” he says.
I glance at him.
His eyes are red-rimmed. He’s not crying. Mike rarely cries in front of people. But his face looks like it’s been holding back a scream for months.
“I didn’t tell him the truth either,” I whisper.
Mike nods once, hard.
“What’s the truth supposed to be?” he asks, and there’s anger in it. Not at me. Not at Leo.
At the universe.
At whatever system decided our family is expendable.
“What’s the truth for a five-year-old, Sarah?” he continues, voice tight. “Do we just… dump it on him? Like, here you go, kid—carry this?”
I stare at Leo climbing again, fearless.
“I don’t know,” I admit, and the admission feels like failure.
Because mothers are supposed to know.
We’re supposed to have answers.
We’re supposed to be stable ground.
But my ground is cracking.
A woman sits on the bench on the other side of us. She’s older—maybe late sixties—with a scarf tied around her neck and a face that looks weathered but kind. She watches Leo too, smiling faintly.
After a moment, she says, “He’s a climber.”
I nod politely, because that’s what you do in America: you exchange tiny comments with strangers like you’re all part of the same temporary tribe.
“He never stops,” Mike says.
The woman’s smile tightens, just a little.
“Mine was like that,” she says.
Mine was.
Past tense.
I feel my stomach drop.
She must see something on my face because she adds quickly, “He’s grown now. But I remember that age. It’s like watching fireworks that don’t run out.”
She turns toward me then, and her eyes flick to my beanie, the hollowness in my cheeks, the way I’m sitting too carefully like my body is fragile glass.
Her face softens.
She doesn’t ask what I have. She doesn’t say, “I’m so sorry.”
She doesn’t do the thing people do where they try to comfort you by pretending you’re not in a burning house.
Instead she says something that hits me like a slap:
“Kids know when something is wrong,” she says gently. “Even when you don’t give them the words.”
Mike stiffens.
I do too.
Because here it is.
The controversial sentence.
The sentence people fight about online.
Tell them.
Don’t tell them.
Protect them.
Be honest.
The woman continues, voice still calm. “They’ll make up their own version if you don’t. And sometimes… their version is scarier.”
I open my mouth to respond, but nothing comes out.
Because she’s right.
Because I remember being a kid and watching adults whisper, and feeling like I’d done something bad because they wouldn’t tell me what was happening.
Because secrets make children blame themselves.
The woman stands up.
Before she walks away, she says, “Whatever you choose—choose it with love, not fear.”
Then she leaves, and I sit there with her words like a stone in my lap.
Mike’s jaw works like he’s chewing on something bitter.
“You hear that?” he mutters.
I look at him.
His eyes are hard now, angry.
“Love, not fear,” he repeats. “As if that’s easy.”
I don’t answer.
Because it isn’t easy.
Because fear is living in our walls.
Because love and fear are tangled together in my chest like wires I can’t separate.
Leo runs back to us, cheeks flushed, eyes bright.
“Momma, can we get hot chocolate after?” he asks.
I smile.
“Yes,” I say, because yes is the easiest gift I can give.
“Yes doesn’t require the future.
Yes only requires now.
That afternoon, after the park and the hot chocolate and the moment in the car where I had to pretend I wasn’t dizzy, Leo falls asleep on the couch with a cartoon playing softly.
Mike carries him to bed.
I watch from the hallway.
Leo’s head lolls against Mike’s shoulder, mouth open, lashes long against his cheeks.
Mike lays him down like he’s made of something priceless.
Then Mike stays there, sitting on the edge of the bed, looking at our son like he’s memorizing every detail.
When he finally comes out, he closes Leo’s door carefully, like shutting it too loudly might wake the fragile illusion of normal.
In the kitchen, the stack of medical bills sits on the counter like an accusation.
We don’t talk about them out loud. Not around Leo. We just shuffle them, open them, close them, pretend we can control them by touching them.
Mike stares at the pile, then at me.
“We got the call,” he says.
My stomach clenches.
“The clinic,” he adds. “They have a spot.”
The trial.
The one they mentioned like a life raft with holes.
My hands go cold.
“When?” I ask.
“Next week,” Mike says quickly, like speed will make it better. “They said… if we want it, we have to decide fast.”
Decide fast.
My whole life has become a series of deadlines.
I lean against the counter.
“What did they say?” I ask, though I already know the kind of things they say.
Potential benefits.
Potential risks.
No guarantees.
Time.
Always time.
Mike’s voice drops. “They said it’s aggressive. Stronger meds. More side effects.”
He pauses.
“But it might work.”
Might.
The most dangerous word.
Because it carries hope like a glowing ember.
Because it makes you imagine the impossible: Leo at middle school graduation. Leo with a driver’s license. Leo at his wedding.
Me there.
Me dancing.
I close my eyes.
In my mind, I see myself in a hospital bed instead of a park.
I see Leo visiting, confused and scared.
I see Mike alone, trying to be two parents at once.
I see months of suffering for a chance that might not come.
I open my eyes and find Mike watching me, desperate.
He wants me to say yes.
He wants me to fight.
He wants me to claw at the future with bloody hands if there’s any chance.
And part of me does too.
But another part of me—quiet, exhausted, honest—wonders something I’m terrified to say out loud:
What if fighting steals the little time I have left?
What if I trade swings and pancakes for hospital lights and nausea?
What if the trial doesn’t give me more life—just more dying?
Mike takes my silence as an answer and his face tightens.
“Sarah,” he says, voice cracking, “you can’t just… give up.”
There it is.
The sentence people throw like rocks.
Don’t give up.
As if dying is a choice.
As if cancer is impressed by motivation.
As if my body cares how positive I am.
I straighten slowly.
“I’m not giving up,” I say, keeping my voice steady. “I’m… thinking.”
Mike’s hands ball into fists.
“Thinking?” he snaps, and the sound of anger in his voice shocks me. Mike isn’t a yeller. But grief changes people. Fear changes people.
“Thinking means time, Sarah,” he says. “And we don’t have time.”
I flinch.
Because he’s right.
Because time is exactly what I don’t have.
I take a breath.
“You want me in a hospital bed,” I say quietly, “so you can feel like we did everything.”
Mike looks like I slapped him.
“That’s not—” he begins.
“It is,” I interrupt, and my voice shakes despite my effort. “You want me to suffer in a way that makes sense. You want a story where the hero fights until the last second.”
Mike’s eyes flash.
“Because you are the hero!” he says, and the words are raw, almost childish in their desperation. “You’re Leo’s mom. You can’t just decide to—”
“To what?” I whisper. “To die?”
The kitchen goes silent.
Even the refrigerator hum sounds loud.
Mike’s face crumples, and for a second his anger collapses into something worse—helplessness.
He sinks into a chair.
“I can’t,” he whispers. “I can’t do this without you.”
The words hit me harder than any diagnosis.
Because that’s the truth I’ve been avoiding.
Not just that Leo will miss me.
That Mike will lose me too.
That my husband—this flawed man who burns pancakes and shrinks sweaters—will have to wake up every day with a hole in his bed and pretend he can keep living.
I walk to him, slowly, and place my hand on his head like he’s the child now.
“I know,” I whisper. “I know.”
Mike leans into my hand, eyes squeezed shut.
Then he says the thing that makes my stomach twist.
“What about Leo?” he whispers. “Do we tell him? Because… because he’s asking questions.”
My hand freezes.
The bench woman’s words echo in my head.
Kids know.
They make up their own version.
Their version is scarier.
I swallow.
“I don’t know,” I admit.
Mike looks up at me, eyes wet.
“I don’t want to break him,” he says.
I stare at the kitchen tile, trying not to fall apart.
“I don’t want to break him either,” I whisper. “But… I don’t want him to think I left him.”
Mike’s jaw trembles.
“Then what do we do?” he asks.
I swallow again, throat burning.
“We tell him… something true,” I say slowly. “Something he can carry.”
Mike nods, but he looks terrified.
Because honesty is heavy.
Because truth is a weight we’ve been trying to keep off our child’s shoulders.
I turn away, my body suddenly nauseous—not from chemo, but from the thought of my son hearing words like sick and not getting better and not forever.
And then, because I’m me, because I can’t stop my brain from spiraling, another thought hits me—one that makes me furious:
Everyone will have an opinion about this.
Everyone.
People who’ve never sat in a race car bed doing The Math will tell me what a good mother would do.
They’ll say I should “stay strong” and “fight harder” and “try everything.”
They’ll say I should never cry in front of him.
They’ll say I should tell him the full truth.
They’ll say I should never tell him.
They’ll say I’m selfish.
They’ll say I’m brave.
They’ll say anything—anything—except the only thing that’s true:
There is no perfect way to die when you’re someone’s mom.
That night, after Leo is asleep, I go into the closet where I keep my secret stash.
Not drugs.
Not money.
Not anything dramatic.
Just a cardboard box full of envelopes and notebooks and little scraps of paper.
My “instruction manual.”
My attempt at controlling the uncontrollable.
I sit on the floor and open the box.
Inside are letters I’ve started, then stopped, because every time I write “Dear Leo,” my heart feels like it’s being squeezed.
There are labels on some envelopes:
OPEN WHEN YOU’RE 10.
OPEN WHEN YOU’RE 13.
OPEN WHEN YOU’RE 16.
OPEN WHEN YOU’RE 18.
OPEN ON YOUR WEDDING DAY.
OPEN WHEN YOU’RE A DAD.
The last one is blank because I couldn’t bear to write it yet.
I pull out a notebook and flip through it.
Lists.
So many lists.
Things Leo likes. Things Leo hates. Things that make him laugh. Things that make him cry. Favorite foods. Favorite jokes. Favorite bedtime story.
I’ve written down his current laugh—how it starts as a squeak and then turns into a full-body explosion.
As if writing it down will preserve it.
As if a note can replace a voice.
I turn a page and see a list titled:
THINGS I NEED MIKE TO KNOW IF I’M NOT HERE.
- When Leo goes quiet, don’t interrogate him. Sit with him.
- He pretends he’s not scared of thunder. He is.
- He doesn’t like peanut butter unless it’s on apples.
- If he says “I’m fine” too quickly, he’s not.
- If he asks about me, don’t act weird. Don’t change the subject. Say my name.
I stop on that last one.
Say my name.
Because that’s what I’m afraid of—that I’ll become a thing they tiptoe around.
A forbidden topic.
A ghost no one mentions.
I don’t want my son to feel like loving me is dangerous.
I want him to say “Mom” without flinching.
My phone buzzes.
A message from my cousin.
Thinking of you. You should post more updates. People would support you. Your story could help others.
I stare at it, bile rising.
Support.
Help others.
Those words sound nice. They’re wrapped in kindness. But underneath them is something else—a hunger. A cultural obsession with turning pain into content.
I know what happens when you share something like this publicly.
People show up with casseroles and compassion.
And also with judgment.
They show up with conspiracy theories about medicine.
They show up with advice nobody asked for.
They show up with the kind of cruelty that hides behind “just being honest.”
And worst of all, they show up hungry for tragedy, like it’s entertainment.
I type back slowly:
I’m keeping this private for Leo. Thank you, though.
I set the phone down and take a breath.
Then I do something I’ve been avoiding.
I take out an empty envelope and write:
OPEN WHEN YOU’RE AN ADULT AND YOU’RE MAD AT ME.
Because he will be.
He will be mad.
He will be so furious at the universe that he might aim it at me.
At the decision to fight or not fight.
At the decision to tell him or not tell him.
At the lies I told because I couldn’t stand the idea of him crying.
And if I can leave him anything, maybe it should be this:
Permission to feel everything.
Even anger.
Especially anger.
Because anger is love’s loudest grief.
I put the envelope aside and wipe my eyes.
Mike appears in the doorway. He’s wearing sweatpants, hair messy, looking like he’s aged ten years in six months.
He leans against the frame, watching me on the floor surrounded by my paper attempts at immortality.
“Is this… what you do every night?” he asks softly.
I nod.
Mike steps inside slowly and sits beside me.
He picks up one of the letters and reads the label without opening it.
“Open when you’re 13,” he whispers.
I watch his throat move as he swallows.
He sets it down like it’s fragile.
“Sarah,” he says, voice barely there, “this is torture.”
I laugh once, sharp and humorless.
“Welcome to my brain,” I mutter.
Mike shakes his head, eyes wet.
“You shouldn’t have to do this alone,” he says.
I stare at him.
Then, because apparently I like setting fires in my own heart, I say the thought that’s been haunting me:
“When I’m gone… you can’t make Leo your whole life.”
Mike’s face tightens.
“Don’t,” he says.
“I’m serious,” I whisper. “He needs you, yes. But he also needs to see you live. He needs to see you laugh again. Date again. Love again.”
Mike looks like he’s going to be sick.
“That’s… that’s disgusting,” he says, and his voice breaks. “How can you say that?”
Because it sounds like betrayal.
Because in movies, the grieving spouse stays devoted forever.
Because America loves a tragic love story where the widower never moves on.
But real life isn’t a movie.
Real life is long and lonely.
And I don’t want Mike turning into a shadow of himself just to prove he loved me.
I take his hand.
“I’m saying it because I love you,” I whisper. “And because I love Leo. He deserves a dad who’s still alive on the inside.”
Mike yanks his hand back like I burned him.
“Stop planning your replacement,” he snaps.
I flinch.
There it is again.
The comment-section fight.
The debate that splits people down the middle.
Some will say I’m noble for giving permission.
Some will say I’m cruel.
Some will say I’m already gone.
Mike stands, pacing, hands in his hair.
“I don’t want anyone else,” he says harshly.
I watch him.
I can see the fear under the anger.
Because if he admits there will be an “after,” he has to face it.
He has to imagine waking up without me.
He has to imagine life continuing, and that feels like betrayal to the present.
“I’m not asking you to want someone else,” I say quietly. “I’m asking you not to die with me.”
Mike stops pacing.
His shoulders sag.
He looks at me like I’m speaking another language.
“I don’t know how,” he whispers.
I swallow.
“Then we learn,” I say. “Together. Before I can’t.”
Mike’s eyes fill. He crouches in front of me, pressing his forehead to mine.
“I hate this,” he whispers.
“I do too,” I whisper back.
For a long time, we just breathe.
Two people trying to stay afloat in a storm.
Two days later, Leo forces me to play “wedding” in the living room.
He puts a towel on my head like a veil. He wears Mike’s tie like a superhero cape. He declares his stuffed bear the “priest.”
I laugh so hard I have to sit down, because sometimes joy is physical and my body is not built for it anymore.
Leo grabs my hands and pulls me up.
“Dance, Momma!” he commands.
The wedding promise again.
The lie waiting.
I swallow it down and dance anyway.
We sway awkwardly in the living room, Leo stepping on my feet, giggling, singing nonsense.
Mike watches from the doorway.
His face is twisted between laughter and heartbreak.
And in that moment I realize something that makes me both furious and calm:
Even if I don’t make it to Leo’s real wedding, I am here for this one.
This ridiculous towel-veil, stuffed-bear-priest wedding.
This is the wedding I get.
And it counts.
Later that night, after Leo falls asleep, Mike and I sit at the kitchen table with a piece of paper between us like a treaty.
It’s not a medical document.
It’s not legal.
It’s just a list.
WHAT WE WILL SAY TO LEO.
We stare at it for a long time.
Mike taps his fingers like he’s trying to summon courage through motion.
Finally, I pick up the pen and write:
Mom’s body is sick.
Mike winces but nods.
I write:
The doctors are helping.
I pause.
Then I write:
No one knows exactly what will happen.
Mike’s breath shudders.
I add:
But Mom loves you forever.
Mike’s hand grips mine so hard it hurts.
“Forever,” he whispers, voice thick.
I look at him.
“Forever isn’t about my body,” I say quietly. “It’s about him not being alone in his head.”
Mike swallows hard.
“You’re good at words,” he says.
I shake my head.
“No,” I whisper. “I’m just desperate.”
We decide to tell Leo the next day.
At breakfast.
In daylight.
Not in the dark where fear grows teeth.
Leo is eating cereal, milk dribbling down his chin.
Mike and I sit across from him.
My heart hammers so hard I feel it in my throat.
I want to run.
I want to snatch the truth back and shove it in the closet with the envelopes.
But I don’t.
Because kids know.
Because secrets make monsters.
Mike clears his throat.
“Buddy,” he says, voice carefully steady, “can we talk to you for a minute?”
Leo looks up, immediately alert.
That searching look again.
“Am I in trouble?” he asks.
“No,” I say quickly. “No, baby.”
Leo’s eyes flick between us.
My palms are sweating.
Mike reaches across the table and holds Leo’s small hand in his big one.
“Mom’s body is sick,” Mike says.
Leo frowns.
“Like when I had the ear thing?” he asks.
“Kind of,” I say. “But different.”
Leo’s brow furrows deeper.
“Is that why you go to the doctor a lot?” he asks.
“Yes,” I whisper.
Leo stares at my beanie.
“Is that why your hair…?” he trails off.
I nod, unable to speak.
Leo’s mouth tightens.
“Are you gonna get better?” he asks, and his voice is small.
There it is.
The question every parent dreads.
The question that decides whether you tell the whole truth.
Mike looks at me.
I can feel him begging me with his eyes: Don’t break him.
I take a breath so slow it feels like swallowing glass.
“The doctors are trying very hard,” I say, choosing each word like it’s a step over a cliff. “Sometimes bodies get better. Sometimes… they don’t. No one knows exactly what will happen.”
Leo’s face changes.
He goes very still.
Then he whispers, “Does that mean… you could… go away?”
My throat closes.
I reach for his other hand.
“I might,” I whisper. “But not today. And not because you did anything wrong. Never because of you.”
Leo’s eyes fill with tears instantly.
He’s five. He doesn’t have the armor adults have.
His grief is raw and immediate.
“I don’t want you to go,” he says, voice breaking.
I stand up so fast the chair scrapes.
I go to him, drop to my knees, and pull him into my arms.
“I don’t want to go either,” I whisper into his hair. “I’m going to stay as long as I can.”
Leo clings to me like he’s trying to fuse our bodies together.
Mike’s hand covers my shoulder, trembling.
Leo sobs, and each sound feels like my heart tearing.
Then, through tears, he says something that makes me want to scream:
“But you promised me you’d dance at my wedding.”
There it is.
The lie.
The sin.
The promise that will haunt me.
I squeeze him harder.
“I know,” I whisper. “I know, baby.”
Leo pulls back just enough to look at my face.
His cheeks are wet. His eyes are desperate.
“Why did you promise if you might go?” he asks.
It’s not accusation.
It’s confusion.
And it’s the kind of question that makes adults uncomfortable because it exposes us.
Because it forces us to admit the truth:
We lie to our kids all the time.
Not for fun.
Not to manipulate.
But because we can’t bear their pain.
Because we think we’re protecting them.
Because sometimes we’re really protecting ourselves.
I swallow, eyes burning.
“Because I wanted you to feel safe,” I whisper. “Because I love you so much it makes me… stupid.”
Leo hiccups a laugh through tears.
“Momma’s stupid,” he sniffles, and it’s so Leo—so absurd—that I laugh too, crying at the same time.
Mike lets out a broken sound that might be a laugh or might be a sob.
Leo touches my beanie gently.
“Are you gonna be a star?” he whispers suddenly, voice tiny.
My breath catches.
I think about glow-in-the-dark stars on his ceiling.
I think about the woman at the park.
I think about choosing love, not fear.
I nod slowly.
“Someday,” I whisper. “And when you miss me… you can talk to the stars. And you can talk to Dad. And you can talk to me in your head. I’ll be there.”
Leo looks scared.
“But I can’t hug a star,” he whispers.
I close my eyes.
“No,” I admit. “You can’t.”
That honesty feels like falling.
But then I add, “So I’m going to give you hugs now. A lot of them. So many you’ll get sick of me.”
Leo sniffles and leans in, pressing his face against my neck.
“I’ll never get sick of you,” he whispers.
And in that moment, I understand something that could start a war in any comment section:
Kids don’t need perfect truth or perfect protection.
They need connection.
They need someone to sit in the hard with them and not run away.
They need love that doesn’t flinch.
Because pretending everything is fine doesn’t make them safe.
It just makes them alone.
That night, Leo asks to sleep in our bed.
Mike and I hesitate for half a second—because we’re trying to maintain routines, because the counselor pamphlets always say consistency is good, because everyone has advice.
Then I remember: advice doesn’t live in our house.
Leo does.
So we let him.
He wedges himself between us like a warm little anchor.
He falls asleep quickly, exhausted from crying.
Mike lies awake, staring at the ceiling.
I can feel his hand gripping mine under the blanket like he’s afraid if he lets go, I’ll disappear.
In the darkness, Mike whispers, “What if we did the trial?”
I close my eyes.
The question is a knife.
What if the trial works?
What if it buys me years?
What if I can actually be there?
But what if it doesn’t?
What if it steals the time Leo and I have left in exchange for suffering?
This is the part people don’t understand until they’re inside it.
This is the part strangers judge like it’s a moral test.
Why wouldn’t you try everything?
Because “everything” has a cost.
Because sometimes “everything” means more hospitals than home.
Because sometimes “everything” means your child remembers you through tubes and alarms instead of swings and hot chocolate.
Mike’s voice cracks. “I can’t stop thinking… if we don’t try… did we choose this?”
I turn my head slowly toward him.
Even in the dark, I can see his face wet.
“No,” I whisper. “We didn’t choose this.”
Mike’s breath shakes.
“But it feels like… if we say no, it’s on us.”
I swallow, my chest tight.
“This disease doesn’t care what we choose,” I whisper. “But Leo will. He will remember how we lived.”
Mike wipes his face with his sleeve like a kid.
“What do you want?” he asks.
The question lands heavy.
What do I want?
I want time.
I want normal.
I want my hair back and my breath back and my life back.
I want Leo not to have to learn words like terminal before he learns long division.
But the universe isn’t taking requests.
So I answer the only way I can.
“I want… whatever lets him remember love instead of fear,” I whisper.
Mike closes his eyes.
In the dark, our son sighs in his sleep, and it sounds like innocence.
I stare at the ceiling and realize something else—something that makes me furious all over again:
No matter what we choose, someone will call it wrong.
If I do the trial, people will say I’m selfish for risking more suffering.
If I don’t, people will say I didn’t fight.
If we told Leo, people will say we traumatized him.
If we didn’t, people will say we lied.
There is no winning.
There is only loving.
And loving, apparently, is controversial.
The next morning, Leo wakes up cheerful in that terrifying way children do after crying themselves empty.
Like grief is a wave that passes through them and then—poof—they’re back to wanting waffles.
He eats breakfast, then pulls out crayons.
He draws a picture of our family.
Three stick figures.
Mike is tall. Leo is small. I am in the middle.
Leo draws my beanie carefully.
Then he draws a big circle above us.
A star.
He colors it yellow.
He looks up at me, serious.
“This is you later,” he says matter-of-factly.
My throat tightens.
He points at the star.
“And this is you now,” he adds, pointing at my stick figure.
Then he draws a line connecting the star to the stick figure like a string.
“A leash,” he says, satisfied. “So you don’t get lost.”
I laugh through tears because of course he calls it a leash.
Because he’s five and his brain works like magic.
Because he refuses to let me float away unconnected.
Mike stares at the drawing like it’s scripture.
I take the paper and press it to my chest.
“Thank you,” I whisper.
Leo shrugs, then says, “Can we go to the park again today?”
I smile.
“Not today,” I say. “Momma’s body needs a rest.”
Leo nods like he understands.
Then he says, casually, like he’s commenting on the weather:
“When you go star, Dad can still take me.”
Mike’s face crumples.
I pull Leo into my lap.
“Yes,” I whisper. “Dad will still take you.”
Leo looks at me.
“But you have to tell him how to push me high,” he says.
I laugh, and it hurts.
“Oh, I will,” I whisper. “I will teach him.”
Leo nods, satisfied.
As if that solves the biggest problem in the world.
And maybe it does.
Because maybe the strongest legacy I can leave isn’t a stack of videos in a cloud folder.
Maybe it’s teaching the people I love how to keep loving after I’m gone.
That evening, I go back to my box of envelopes.
But this time, I don’t write to Leo.
I write to Mike.
I label the envelope:
OPEN WHEN YOU’RE READY TO STOP HATING THE WORLD.
Inside, I write the truth I don’t know how to say out loud:
That grief will make him angry.
That anger will try to eat him alive.
That he will feel guilty for laughing again.
That he will feel guilty for not laughing.
That he will want to freeze time because moving forward will feel like leaving me behind.
And then I write the thing I hope becomes viral because it’s the only thing I know for sure:
Love doesn’t end when a body does.
Love becomes a job.
Love becomes a practice.
Love becomes a decision you make every day you wake up and choose not to turn your heart into a grave.
I seal the envelope.
My hands shake.
Then I record a video on my phone—not for Leo’s wedding, not for his graduation.
Just for tomorrow.
Because tomorrow is all I can promise honestly.
I stare into the camera and say, “Hi, Leo. It’s Mom. If you’re watching this, it means I couldn’t tuck you in tonight. But I want you to remember something…”
I stop.
My face on the screen looks like a stranger.
A digital ghost.
I delete it.
I try again.
This time I don’t try to be inspirational.
I don’t try to be brave.
I just say the truth:
“Leo, I love you. I love you when you’re happy. I love you when you’re mad. I love you when you miss me. I love you when you forget me for a second. I love you forever. Not the kind of forever that means I’ll always be in the room. The kind of forever that means you never have to wonder if you were enough.”
I stop recording.
I keep it.
Because it feels real.
Because it feels like me.
Mike watches from the doorway.
He doesn’t speak.
He just walks over and wraps his arms around me from behind, resting his chin on my shoulder like he’s trying to borrow my heartbeat.
“Sarah,” he whispers, voice broken, “I’m scared.”
I close my eyes.
“I know,” I whisper. “Me too.”
He squeezes tighter.
And I realize—suddenly, clearly—what the next controversial battle will be:
Not whether I try the trial.
Not whether we told Leo.
But whether this kind of love—the kind that keeps showing up in the middle of terror—is enough.
Because people love to debate what a “good mother” is.
They love to judge decisions they’ve never had to make.
They love neat answers.
But there are no neat answers here.
There is only a mother dying in a hurry.
A father learning how to breathe anyway.
And a five-year-old boy drawing a leash to the stars so his mom doesn’t get lost.
My name is Sarah.
And now Leo knows the truth in a way his little heart can hold.
He knows I might not be there for middle school graduation.
He knows I might not dance at his real wedding.
But he also knows this:
I didn’t leave him in the dark.
I stayed.
I told him love doesn’t disappear—it changes shape.
And tomorrow, if I can stand, I’m taking him back to the swings.
Because that is my job now:
To push him higher and higher, toward the clouds—
and to teach him, and Mike, and anyone reading this who thinks love is only a feeling…
that love is also an action.
A choice.
A promise you keep today,
even when tomorrow is not guaranteed.
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